tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post4165222688059694634..comments2024-03-27T13:12:39.343-04:00Comments on A Concord Pastor Comments: Sexual Misconduct Plagues US SchoolsConcord Pastorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18322127779647130869noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-68529619972052026002007-10-25T22:50:00.000-04:002007-10-25T22:50:00.000-04:00Thank you piskie and grace,You are both unfortunat...Thank you piskie and grace,<BR/>You are both unfortunately correct.<BR/>Abuse within the home by family members I believe is the cruelest form of trauma one can live through. That is not to take away the severity of all abuse. All abuse is despicable, but when someone within the safety of a family abuses a child, a father, grandfather..., I do believe that any form of trust is broken, and I'm not sure that is something that one can heal from. I pray the victimes can heal, but I'm just not sure it's possible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-68587373040922825102007-10-25T20:07:00.000-04:002007-10-25T20:07:00.000-04:00And usually Grandpa and not Grandma. Thanks for b...And usually Grandpa and not Grandma. Thanks for bringing that up "piskie".<BR/><BR/>I sometimes feel, it is near impossible to protect children from their own family members. If someone from their own family betrays and abuses them, who in life can they learn to trust? It takes much time, and healing to get past the trauma of being sexually abused. All we can do is teach children NOT to keep a secret that is hurting them, and to tell someone that they DO trust, what is going on and that is NOT their fault.gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02683800733174420258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-81712434462609753812007-10-25T18:21:00.000-04:002007-10-25T18:21:00.000-04:00Regina, your pain comes through loud and clear. I...Regina, your pain comes through loud and clear. I do, however, feel constrained to note that after abusive clergy and teachers have been identified and removed, the biggest population of perpetrators sit secure in their access to victims -- parents, grandparents, older siblings, and so on. When home isn't safe, there's little left.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad that abusers outside the home are being caught and dealt with (when they are). I just fear that people will forget that abuse more often starts at home. Who has more power over a child and more opportunity to use that power selfishly and harmfully than adults living with the child? <BR/><BR/>Yes, weed out the bad teachers and priests and so on, but don't forget to look askance at Daddy, and it is usually Daddy and not Mommy.just another piskiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11114240498737481553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-3470132295039286722007-10-24T21:51:00.000-04:002007-10-24T21:51:00.000-04:00Right on Regina!Right on Regina!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-80772102249302812152007-10-24T18:15:00.000-04:002007-10-24T18:15:00.000-04:00Sorry this is so long. Once again we find that inn...Sorry this is so long. <BR/>Once again we find that innocent children are being abused by the very people they should be able to trust. As Concord Pastor said, it's Deva Vu all over again, just a different profession. In the last few years all of this has become an epidemic. What scares me is how many children over the years have lost thier innocence because no one believed them or because they were afraid to speak up. Some children in this generation have been able to begin the healing process because they have been able to speak the truth to a trusting adult and been believed, but not enough. The hidden torture these children have had to endure makes me sick. Even the children of this generation have to grow to trust in order to heal. As we know, trust when sexual abuse is present is something that is particularly difficult. In an era that therapy is available and encouraged, communication is far better then it ever has been, and the system of believing the victim instead od disbelief which forces additional victimization has gotten better...not good enough for sure...but we at least have the opportunity to seek out help. The church desroyed many, many lives with the abuse endured by pedophile priests, and now, one is left to wonder how many lives have been destroyed by pedophile teachers. The problem is rampant. We MUST find a way to protect our children. Taeching awareness and removing the shame that comes with abuse is a beginning, but certainly not the end of this. I for one wish I could do SOMETHING, ANYTHING that would save the life of a child from the hell that victims must endure. But, I just don't know what else I can do. Does anyone have some answers that we all can incorporate into our teachings and safety of our own children and grandchildren? Even if we can save one child from going through this hell because another adult has broken a sacred trust, it is worth it. Unfortunately, one child isn't enough, we need to save an entire generation form this trauma. We can't lock our children away with the hope of sparing them from the destructive forces within our sociaty, but there must be a better way to teach them that when they see or feel a "red flag" go up, they must trust thier insticts and all the while make it known that it is OK for them to speak up. Dear God, what a sad state we find our children having to endure. There are truly sick people out there just waiting for the opportunity to destroy more victims. Pray for the children who have been affected, who will be affected and who will, over a period of time, usually years, need the power of unselfish love, understanding and teachings so that they may somehow live a fruitful life without the destructive abuse leaving them with a lifelong hurt that they find most difficult, almost impossible to heal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-60892861828311454902007-10-24T14:17:00.000-04:002007-10-24T14:17:00.000-04:00The whole story sounds so familiar: just change t...The whole story sounds so familiar: just change the profession and the administrative titles and you have a disturbing deja vu.Concord Pastorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18322127779647130869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4808375493800890797.post-2682529246866295442007-10-24T08:45:00.000-04:002007-10-24T08:45:00.000-04:00"Misconduct" (behavior not conforming to prevailin..."Misconduct" (behavior not conforming to prevailing standard,<BR/>impropriety) sounds almost benign. When did we stop using "abuse"<BR/>(to hurt or injure by maltreatment) and "molest" (to subject to<BR/>unwanted sexual activity) ? <BR/><BR/>Are we backsliding?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com